Last night the first cracks of my broken heart began to appear.
My girl's plan to go to tonight's funfair was mangled when her friend said she did not want to meet up with Princess Curly-Wurly. Yes we have hit that stage in our lives where these girls, who have all been so close since they were four years old (or younger), are hormonal creatures trying out their teeth and talons.
My girl is sufficiently left of centre and thin-skinned that she will never be in the cool gang. I am not sure I would want her to be. But I remember the travails of teenage girldom and just wish I could take my baby forward 10 years and show her how she will blossom and survive on the other side of what is to come.
Something I'm not looking forward to. Hope her heart has mended a little today
ReplyDeleteOh...teen years, especially for girls. How can we explain to PCW that it won't matter? How do we explain to her that for the next 6 years it will matter and then...suddenly it won't at all for the next 60 plus years!
ReplyDeleteOh, poor baby. Thank goodness she has such an understanding mum. We're already going through a little bit of this and I am dreading how much worse it is likely to get.
ReplyDeleteSome silly old duffer told Tall Small today that schooldays were the happiest days of our lives. Does he not remember adolescence?!
Children are so often awful, vile creatures. I know, I have a 14 yr old son. I also know that there are even worse times ahead. Life stinks at times, and it's so much worse being a mother. But then the sun shines one day and all is well with the world. And your broken heart will heal, but it will never heal back to the way it used to be.
ReplyDeletepoor girl! I wouldn't go through the teens again for all the money in the world. Give her hugs from me too. I was also a bit "different" so was never in the "in" crowd.
ReplyDelete*sniff, sniff* Kids can be so mean! Makes you want to encase your baby in bubble wrap unitl s/he is 40. You tell PCW that I'd go to the fun fair with her any day of the week - and twick on Sunday!
ReplyDeletegirls can be so horrible and its hard to make your lovely princess understand. we all wish we could go through the horrid stuff for them!
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Oops for the typo - should be "TWICE on Sunday"
ReplyDeleteAnd what's this Michaela is saying that you've been told off? Do share ...
ow ow ow, how horrible.
ReplyDeletei was never even remotely 'in' but i think it makes you a much more interesting and self assured person in the end (i would say that tho wouldn't i?!). still, i don't suppose there's a cure for broken mummy heart. if you find one....
That was me too, but I think that it gave me the strength to be who I am now. Still sucks though to watch. I am sure there will be some new friends that are more suited to her interests now that will last her. Cuddles
ReplyDeleteMy 16 year old son is suddenly in a tight knit group of 2 boys and 2 girls. He can't believe the bitchy comments and the fights that go on between the girls. Having no sisters, this is a real education for him...
ReplyDeletepoor girl. Girls can be so mean sometimes. I had a a friend drop me & push me out of the group but it didn't happen to me until I was 25! I felt like I might as well have been back in middle school.
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely photograph, and isn't it the truth...one learns to carry one's own color and surround oneself with love that doesn't fail.
ReplyDeleteHugs to all, from across the sea.
Heartbreaking. I am not looking forwward to it at all. She is lucky to have an empathetic mum. PS - You got told off!? Ouch!
ReplyDeleteOh poor Princess C-W and poor you. I hate that teenage girl stuff, I never coped when it raged all around me at high school and I'm relieved I don't have girl-children, because guiding them through is just as rough. Hugs.
ReplyDeleteOh Trash, it is a rollercoaster ahead....
ReplyDeleteHugs to Princess C-W... she'll come shining through it all far better for being an individual and not one of the gang.
ReplyDeleteHow old? With three girls I'm not looking forward to it...!
ReplyDeleteOh, the poor wee pet. I wouldn't go back to that age for quids - little girls can be just hideous.
ReplyDeleteHow totally and utterly and horribly grey pants! Poor PCW and poor you. Girls can be cruel and learning to walk your own path is practically impossible - but ultimately achievable I'm sure!
ReplyDeleteBig hugs from all the Lockets (who are all left of centre and very thin skinned!)
Lucy xxx
So long as she has a mum to give her a big hug and help her to see a funny side of every situation she will be safe and come out smiling.
ReplyDeleteUs really cool people know that cool people are never in the "cool gang" - that type of group is formed totally of bland clones. Cool people don't need that kind of ego boost!
ReplyDeletePlease give Princess CW a special squeeze from us. I know just how you feel as Minx seems to have become 'friends' with a little madam this year, who causes her nought but misery :(
ReplyDeleteNo amount of 'stand up for yourself' or 'tell her no you don't want to' from me seems to help but then I was just the same at her age.
What you and I both know is that your girl is a VERY beautiful and special young lady. Give her a very bug HUG from me and my Minx xxxxxx
OOF! i can only imagine how a mother feels at this moment...as a friend/aunt it is heartbreaking to think of maddie or c-w or any of "my" girls enduring these cliquish up-n-down years. on the one hand you want to wish them OUT of it...except to do so would rob them of the very things that give them their own kindness and empathy and knowledge that they are stronger than they thought.
ReplyDeletebut still...OOF!
lots of love c-dub...it DOES get better, honest!!!!!!!
I felt it all coming back when I read this post- I'm a long way off having kids but I can begin to understand how hard it must be to watch this process of change happening to your child. I've just turned 20 and am offically no longer a teenager, and I cant imagine going back and doing it again. I was always left of centre but by the time a finished school I found myself in a happy, supportive group of friends. Also, looking back I remember that there were some really down days but other days I remember being so happy and carefree.. and they are the ones I look back and remember. Best of luck, Princess Curly Wurly is lucky to have you as her mother =]
ReplyDeletevisiting from The WOmen's Colony. Good stuff here!
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